Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Why I'm Not On Facebook Anymore

Not that anyone really cares but I thought I would explain why NW Backyard Veggies is off Facebook now.

First - some background. I was the last holdout of all of my friends to join FB. I didn't want to do it because I felt it was too personal, that people were silently watching me through my updates and that FB has unadulterated access to all my content. That all made me a little uncomfortable. But I was already blogging, and just the mere fact that I am on the interwebs at all means someone has my information somewhere. Essentially, privacy was already out the window. In for a penny, in for a pound, right?

So I joined. First as myself, and then as my two businesses.

And everything was fine. I accepted only friend requests from people I really wanted to chat with - no ex high school friends or people whom I really didn't like. I kept it real.

Then I liked some pages. Political things mostly. And atheist page. A truck load of farming and Urban Agriculture pages (the only ones I miss now.)

In the beginning I checked it every week - didn't think about it at all, really. I forgot about it mostly.

At the end, I was on it 8-9 times a day.

Enough.

There is a silent cajoling that happens with sites like FB - don't go away too long, or you're gonna miss all this stuff! Stay...stay...stay.... Check in, update, post, make sure you link to the right things...blah, blah, blah. I was starting to feel bullied. I also started to feel out of control.

And it's a freakin' website, y'all. LAME.

Reality kicked me in teeth when I did something I never do - I commented on a post from a page I liked. Not a friend, but a page. As a rule, I just read the posts, not the comments, but I felt one side was not being represented. It was a nice little comment - but I was offering another side to the original post. And I was instantly excoriated, bashed, made fun of and heckled. By the administrator! Other people started backing me up to the admin. But it was no use. The shine was off the penny. I don't like confrontation (unless it's warranted) and I don't like aggression when actual conversation will suffice. I saw the admin's reaction, thought about all my feelings about FB and instantly deactivated my account.

I was out.

And the huge relief that surged over my body was completely unexpected and totally refreshing. I felt like a weight had been lifted. Last time I felt like that was when I left my last job! Odd feeling for disconnecting from a website, right? I thought it was a bit over the top, myself. 

I had heard that FB earned over a billion dollars in profits last year and paid next to nothing in taxes. I can't support an organization like that. I also know that I felt it was getting too much. I care what people think - I'm a communicator, after all is said and done - and watching people fight online made me feel uncomfortable and upset. I was starting to get mad when I got on FB. Irritated at the government, at people, and irritated at myself that I was even checking it at all.

Who's running this show? Me or the goddamn computer?!? Me, that's who. My only regret is that I joined at all and now I can't delete my account. FB Whores.

There was this thing I read that said "We have access to unlimited information, for free, at our fingertips, and we use the internet to look at videos of cats and argue with strangers". Whoo boy. Ain't that the truth.

I am not condemning any other person who is on FB and enjoys it. I say this all the time - to each his or her own. There's room for all of us to have our preferences. I just know that for all my bluster, FB hurts my sensibilities, and I can't have that. Plus - I noticed more people liking my page, but what I actually want is people reading and enjoying the community of the BLOG, not the blasted FB page. Why do I want to make them more money? I do this online stuff for fun and to meet awesome people (like everyone who visits me here - you guys are the best) not be a slave to a corporate website that's pushing their advertising down my throat at every turn.

So - there's my rant about FB. Sorry you had to sit through that. Here's a picture of nice spring things to make you feel better!

Peas by Presidents Day!

Little Daffodils courtesy of the GM. Absolutely Lovely.

So you'll find me hunkered here on Blogger for the foreseeable future. I got some serious things done this weekend, including culling my first batch of rabbits, "creating" my raised lettuce bed, and planning for beans (I needed to get creative with the vertical space as I'm growing shelling beans this year.)

Take care, everyone!



13 comments:

  1. I'm probably a complete Luddite, but I have never been on facebook. At some point I realized I had drawn a line in the technology sand and there I was on one side, with facebook on the other. Occasionally I wonder if it means I am out of touch with some people I'd like to be in touch with, but then I just pick up the phone...

    I have seen the meanness you write about and it scares me.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. True that, boo. Word.
      The meanness. For no other reason than to just be a shit.

      I do NOT dig that about the human race.

      I just wanna tell everyone to smoke a J and RELAX.

      Delete
  2. I know what you mean, I resisted setting up a FB page for my blog, but then it seemed like it was the only way to increase my readership. I think I check it too often, but I do actually enjoy linking to people through my blog page more than my personal page. I think I have more in common with strangers on the internet than with my real-life friends sometimes! Good on you for recognising that it wasn't working for you and getting rid of it.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I felt the same way. Then I realized that I write my blog just to write it, not so much to have a ton of people come to it all the time (although it's nice, huh!?!)

      The blog pulls at me, too, sometimes. To increase readership or not - that is the question!!

      And I totally agree with the last piece - having more in common with internet friends then close by friends.. I'm with ya'. Finding like minded awesome people is so hard sometimes!

      Delete
  3. Good for you! I am such a great procrastinator - more about that some other time - so I doubt I'll ever join FB. I am reminded by posts such as yours that I am missing nuttinmuch. Maybe in a few years FB will be gone, like CB radio and Crocs. Oops, sorry if any Croc-shod folks see that, I mean no offense,just was alliterating - let's change that to, um, Carmen Electra, OK? I also am free of such things as twitter, texting, and other time-sinks. I need all that extra time to ....procrastinate. Meanwhile, the trees are forming little pointy buds and roundy buds, and any day now, I'll start thinking about maybe considering a possible lawn mower purchase. Spring is such an appropriately named season!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. "time - sinks". Classic.

      As in time swirling, swirling, swirling down the drain....

      Delete
  4. I'm anti-FB too. What you say is true, everyone expects you to be on it (even my 72 yo Mom) but I feel the blog is enough and much more civil. Plus I've seen coworkers get contacted by patients that we've worked up. I suppose that's fine if you're single but I like to keep my work life at work and my private life, private.

    Good rant!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Seriously. I have client's try to friend me. That's like the apotheosis of unprofessional!

      I totally agree - work for work, home for home and never the twain shall meet.

      Delete
  5. You mean its ok NOT to be on facebook? I joined FB two years ago and now I'm consumed by it. The peer pressure made me do it and it's getting tiresome. Good for you for letting go. You have given me something to think about.

    Wow, the frogs have started their serenade?! I'm jealous, here in the Northeast they're still snoring under the mud. And your peas!! Beautiful!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Hey Karla - Peer pressure sucks, huh. That's exactly why I joined. Everyone was doing it, and I felt like I was missing out.

      Turns out I'm not missing that much. *sarcastic chuckle*

      The frogs are still calling about, by the way. I LOVE that sound!!

      Delete
  6. I'd love to leave Facebook but feel it's my link to friends and family around the world. It is an ugly beast though and seems more focussed on selling you things these days than connecting you with loved ones. The internet is also a place where people tend to show their bad sides under the cloak of anonymity. So I'm not surprised by what happened to you with your comment.

    For a business it can be a good thing and I've had a lot of positive activity on my Lovely Greens page. It's rare that a 'Troll' visits or a negative comment is left. Gardening and natural living attracts a lot of people with similar mindsets - opposed to interests like politics and social issues.

    That saying, if another similar service did become available I'd start migrating there immediately. I hate that FB is a traded company now and that all of your personal content is effectively owned by shareholders :(

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Which is totally why I started using it, too! It's a shame that it turned out the way it has.

      Delete
  7. My favorite stuff on FB is also the Urban Agriculture pages. I think that is the main reason I go on. And you are right, it takes up far too much time. But still I log on daily :(
    I am so looking forward to hearing how your rabbit culling went. My bunnies are just not giving me any babies. We are thinking about getting a second female.

    ReplyDelete

Comments are good. Comments are right. I like comments. I can't believe you like comments, too!